Real Kato Blog: Dating Update

I don't know whether to laugh or cry.

So, the on-line dating site that rhymes with Catch Rot Balm has a new feature. You can now see who has viewed your profile. This is both terrific and creepy. I'm going to have to be a lot more careful about whose profiles I visit.

One girl who looked at my profile recently is a cute Asian girl, from Canada, but she explicitly says "no metrosexuals" in her profile. Only Mounties for her, I guess.

As I mentioned in a comment to an earlier post, I got a reply from the girl who seems to be Gloria Lopez from WRAL, denying that she is in fact Gloria Lopez. I wrote to her again saying "Oh, well, then there's somebody at WRAL who is living your life. Perhaps you should look into it." She did not respond to that.

It's still pretty slim pickings out there, but there's been more activity lately. There tends to be a burst of activity in the springtime, and OH MY GOD, I've been doing this so long that I CAN IDENTIFY SEASONAL TRENDS. "On-line dating activity tends to peak during leap years, except when Republicans control both houses of Congress. The five-year outlook calls for above-average activity during the equinoxes but extended lulls in between." Egads.

It's tough, this dating business. I read some other blogs where people complain about not having enough money, but they have wonderful and loving families to come home to. Would you trade? Would you rather be rich and alone? Somehow, I don't think you would. I guess we all just want it all, and we all miss what we don't have.

One thing I have to constantly remind myself: I have to avoid "Chasing Amy". I have to avoid getting caught up with the idea of someone who seems like "The One", and make sure I keep my eyes open for every opportunity. I mention this because at the moment I'm on the verge of being obsessed with someone who seems SO RIGHT for me, but she's utterly unavailable and out of reach, so much so that I shouldn't even be talking about it. Okay, forget I even said anything. EYES: OPEN.

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Posted by Ken in: dating, life

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Comment #1 from Nicholas (Guest)
2005 Apr 22 - 12:58 pm : #

There is not a perfect mate for you or anyone else. You just need to find the person with problems that you can deal with or handle.

Comment #2 from MonoCerdo (Guest)
2005 Apr 22 - 5:12 pm : #

Wow, Nicholas, that's a pretty grim outlook on life partnership!

I'm no advocate for "THE ONE" school of thought, as in there is only one person in the universe for you and if your stars happen to cross you will fall in madly love and if not, well, off to the monastery with you! I'm not terribly good at probability, but if that were the case, it seems to me we'd have a lot of people who would never find THE ONE because THE ONE happened to have been born in Istanbul back when it was Constantinople.

I've always thought that there are certain compatible personality types, and among those types there are subsets of people who can, um, deal with one another's problems well enough to enjoy a lasting relationship. Hopefully you also like each other quite a bit, and, very importantly, like the way you feel about yourself in the relationship.

Long-term relationships are impossibly complex, and of course what works for one person might have another dialing 1-800-DIVORCE, but I think that even if finding your current ideal of a perfect mate is unrealistic, that doesn't mean that you won't, someday, be wholly convinced that the person you're with is the perfect person for you because you've grown to be perfect for one another together.

And this concludes MonoCerdo's very long and unsolicited spiel on relationships. Tune in next week, when I channel Dr. Phil on parenting techniques. I don't have kids, but I'll tell you how to raise yours!

Comment #3 from pinky (Guest)
2005 Apr 22 - 5:58 pm : #

are you in love with a girl who is actually gay? that sounds like the road to heartbreak.

i'd like to be skinny and rich myself (at the moment, I am neither) but I have to say that the firm relationship foundation I have is a comfort. I'd actually like all three things.

Comment #4 from Ken (realkato)
2005 Apr 23 - 12:51 am : #

MonoCerdo: even old New York was once New Amsterdam. Why'd they change it?

Pinky: I can neither confirm nor deny. I can't talk about it, really! And it's killing me! Maybe in a couple of years I'll be able to confess, but not just yet.

Comment #5 from Scott H (Guest)
2005 Apr 23 - 10:03 am : #

The cute Asian is only interested in Mountees ? I guess that would make her a Mounter. Maybe you should pursue her afterall. Being Mountee is not such a bad thing. Oh wait .. .I reread ... you said Mountie, not Mountee ... nevermind ...

Comment #6 from Cori (Guest)
2005 May 2 - 4:57 pm : #

So, where does that put me, with neither money, nor loving family?

Comment #7 from Ken (realkato)
2005 May 2 - 6:31 pm : #

Cori, what about bronzemountain?

Comment #8 from Cori (Guest)
2005 May 3 - 2:19 am : #

He lives in another country. I'm sure he /would/ be nice to come home to, but right now it's just the worst of both worlds. No companionship, no freedom.

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