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Evening Happenings
Thursday, 2005 June 30 - 10:13 pm
... Or, how not to pick up women.

I went to Alive After Five tonight, with co-worker John.

For non-Raleighites: Alive After Five is a free outdoor festival held every week or two during the summer, at the plaza in front of the downtown convention center. They have a band playing, and you can either buy beer or bring your own. No doubt hundreds of cities around the country have similar events.

At AAF, early in the evening, there are a lot of older folks there. Sometimes there are a few folks there with their kids. As the evening goes on, it turns more and more into a meet market for twenty-somethings. There are a LOT of scantily-dressed women, and a LOT of baseball-cap-wearing dudes on the prowl.

Whenever I'm there, I always think of cutesy things that I could say to some of these women, but I rarely follow through on it. I just don't have the knack for approaching someone out of the blue. I mean, you should have seen me flirting away with the girl who was checking IDs at the entrance. I seem to have no trouble if the girl is forced to interact with me anyway. But otherwise, I don't even know where to start.

So that leads me to a question for all women, married, single, or otherwise: Do you like getting approached by men, out of nowhere? Say you're at some festival event like this, and you're talking to a friend. Then some guy says "excuse me", introduces himself, and starts making conversation. Do you like when this happens?

My suspicion is that the answer is: "It depends on the guy." True?

This is why I need a wingman. Or a wingwoman. I hear some people are good at that. Surprisingly, I think I'd be a pretty good wingman. I think I'd have a much better chance of talking to some woman if it wasn't my own neck on the line.
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Comment #1 from Phil (Guest)
2005 Jul 1 - 1:06 am : #
Does the wingman ever wind up with a woman? A serious question. You've got me wondering.
Comment #2 from Crouching Hamster (Guest)
2005 Jul 1 - 2:53 am : #
If the guy is handsome, intriguing, and alluring: yes
If the guy is a desperate, boring, and unsexy: no

I think you only need a wing woman if you need help facilitating the converstaion. They are also reputedly supposed to attract suitors, and let suitors know that - hey, another woman finds this guy good enough to hang out with her.
Comment #3 from Lisa V (Guest)
2005 Jul 1 - 11:29 am : #
I must admit I hate this. Usually it happens when we are out with a bunch of women and a couple of guys come up and try to make conversation. The thing is we only want to talk to each other because we haven't seen each other in a long time. And we are married.

I don't know how I would feel anymore it I were single, its been nearly 20 years since I was single.

I think funny is always a plus, a funny comment would probably open me to further conversation faster than smooth or flattering.
Comment #4 from Sonja (Guest)
2005 Jul 1 - 3:08 pm : #
The best thing ever? Random guy walks up to you and gives you a compliment, then smiles and walks off on his merry way. This ALWAYS makes my day. (Of course it's happened like twice in my entire life, but that's still ALWAYS.) If I saw that guy again in the future (even in the near future at the same event) and I wasn't married, you could bet I wouldn't mind some flirting.

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