Real Kato Blog: Just Can't Turn It Off

Oops. Did some inadvertent flirting today.

At lunch today, the guy who seated us at our table (the "host", I guess... "maitre d'hotel" is a little too fancy for Rock-O-La) said, "The Lovely Jessica will be your server today." As it turns out, The Lovely Jessica was standing right behind him... and so I said to her, "You must be The Lovely Jessica". And she giggled.

With that giggle, I realized: I just flirted with her, and completely without thinking about it. BAD KEN. NAUGHTY, NAUGHTY KEN. I've been caught lighting the grail-shaped lantern. (Amy, you'll have to give me a good spanking.)

I was never a good flirt when I was growing up. I got completely tongue-tied around women. It took nearly two decades of being single to learn how to approach women, to be friendly without seeming creepy, to strike up a conversation without seeming like slimy. Or desperate.

But now that I've learned it, I can't seem to turn it off. In fact, if anything, being in a relationship makes it easier to flirt, because it's no longer directed towards a goal. I'm genuinely harmless now, and that puts everyone totally at ease.

The good thing is, we got fantastic service, which is practically unheard of at this Rock-O-La location. Hmm.

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Posted by Ken in: dating, life

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Comment #1 from Noelle (Guest)
2005 Oct 5 - 9:40 am : #

Ok, see, that's not really flirting. If she had walked up 5 minutes later and you said "you must be the lovely Jessica" then THAT would be flirting, but the fact that she overhead the comment from the host and then you repeated it is simply just witty. No panic.

Comment #2 from Jenn (Guest)
2005 Oct 6 - 12:14 am : #

Yeah, and it's not like you said, "You must be the lovely Jessica, and by the way, that's a lovely rack you have there." Of course, that's not so much flirting and more of being an ass.

Comment #3 from Ken (realkato)
2005 Oct 6 - 10:13 am : #

What if she were carrying a rack of ribs to the table? Is it then okay to say, "Hey, nice rack"?